Better ways to say “please stop cursing”
Why it can fall flat
“please stop cursing”
Someone hearing “please stop cursing” is likely to feel scolded, as if a child were being corrected, and they get defensive. A calm request to keep the language professional, with a short reason, usually does what you want.
Say this instead
- 01
Could we keep the language clean in the team channel? Some people there would prefer it, and it keeps things professional. Thanks.
Coworker · Chat
Good for a casual first request, because it names the place and gives a reason without blaming anyone.
- 02
Quick favor: can we keep the swearing out of our calls? It makes it harder for me to focus on the work. Thanks.
Coworker · SMS
Suits a friendly colleague when you want a private, low-key nudge.
- 03
Hi Emerson, there was a lot of swearing in today's meeting and it made it harder to concentrate. Could we leave it out of meetings from now on? Thanks.
Coworker · Email
Useful after a specific incident, since it ties the request to one clear example.
- 04
I'd like us to keep our language professional in the office and on calls. Please avoid swearing from now on. Happy to talk if you have questions.
Someone you manage · Email
Sets a clear expectation as a manager while leaving room for conversation.
- 05
Please keep swearing out of messages to the team, including group chats. Thanks.
Someone you manage · SMS
Short and direct, which fits a quick reminder when the habit has shown up in messages.
- 06
Could we ask everyone to keep the language clean in team meetings? I think it would help the whole group stay focused.
Boss · Chat
Lets you raise the issue upward by framing it as a benefit to the whole team.
- 07
I'd like our calls to stay professional for everyone involved, so I'd ask that we avoid strong language. Thank you for understanding.
Client · Email
Firm but polite, so it fits a client when the tone of calls is slipping.
- 08
I want to help you with this, and I need us to keep the conversation free of swearing so I can do that. Thank you.
Customer · Chat
Keeps the focus on solving their problem while setting a clear boundary.
Examples
Hi Jamal, I wanted to mention something from this morning's call. The swearing made it hard for a few of us to stay focused on the plan. Could we keep the language clean on calls from now on? Thanks for understanding. Happy to chat if you'd like to talk it through. Best, Erin
Hey Jamal, can we keep the swearing out of the project channel? A few people on the team would prefer it, and it keeps things professional. Thanks!
What to avoid
- Don't call the person rude, immature or unprofessional; describe the behavior instead.
- Making the request in front of a group is best saved for when the swearing is happening in that moment.
- Sarcasm and jokes can hide the request or make it sound like a dig.
- Mentioning it only once in passing rarely works, so if it continues, say it again clearly and calmly.