Alternatives to “worry about yourself” at work

Say this instead

1. 01

   Thanks for the concern, but my part is under control. Let's each focus on our own tasks and keep the shared work moving.

   Coworker · Chat

   Use this with a peer who keeps commenting on your pace or choices, since it thanks them and then closes the topic without blame.

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2. 02

   I'd rather keep my workload between me and my manager. Happy to talk about the project itself if there's something specific.

   Coworker · Chat

   Try this one when someone probes into your schedule or performance, because it sets a boundary and offers a work-related way forward.

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3. 03

   Appreciate it, but my part is handled. Let's stick to our own tasks and sort any shared bits in tomorrow's meeting.

   Coworker · SMS

   This suits a quick, friendly brush-off outside office hours when you don't want a long text exchange.

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4. 04

   Thanks for flagging that. I'm comfortable with how I'm handling my own tasks, and I'll come to you if I need input.

   Boss · Email

   Send this when a manager questions how you work and you want to keep your approach without seeming defensive.

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5. 05

   Please focus on your own deliverables for now. How other teams run their work is something I'll handle, so you don't need to chase it.

   Someone you manage · Chat

   Pick this when someone you manage keeps fretting over colleagues' work and it pulls them off their own priorities.

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6. 06

   Thanks for the suggestion. How we staff and run our internal work is something we manage on our side. I'm glad to go through the deliverables and timeline with you.

   Client · Email

   It fits when a client starts commenting on your team's internal setup, and it steers back to what they're paying for.

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7. 07

   I can only discuss your own account here, so I can't comment on anyone else's. I'm happy to help with anything on yours.

   Customer · Chat

   Reach for this when a customer asks about or criticizes other people's accounts, since it holds the line politely and offers real help.

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Examples

What to avoid

• Sarcasm or a pointed “no offense, but” can make the boundary sound like an attack.
• Pointing out the other person's own mistakes to win the argument only escalates things.
• Replying while irritated is risky, and a short pause usually gives a calmer, clearer message.
• A long explanation or justification weakens the boundary when a short, firm line will do.
• Saying it in front of others is harder to hear than a private message.

Related phrases

• Better ways to say “pay attention to detail”→
• Better ways to say “I don't want to ruffle feathers”→
• A kinder way to say “stop slagging off the team”→
• A kinder way to say “you have a smart mouth”→
• A kinder way to say “stay in your lane”→
• How to say “I need to run errands” professionally→