A kinder way to say “either way”
Why it can fall flat
“either way”
“Either way” leaves out whether you're flexible or just checked out, and it can brush off the other person's reasons. Usually you mean both options are fine, or your plan holds whatever they decide.
Say this instead
- 01
I'm comfortable with both options, so please go with whichever works better for you. I'll plan around either one.
Boss · Email
Fits when you truly have no preference and want to hand the decision over while still sounding engaged.
- 02
Both times work for me, so pick whichever suits you and I'll fit around it.
Coworker · Chat
Friendly for scheduling, because it shows you're flexible rather than indifferent.
- 03
Either option keeps us on the current timeline. Could you let me know which you prefer by Wednesday so we can plan the next steps?
Client · Email
Good when the choice is theirs but you need an answer by a set date.
- 04
Both approaches are fine with me, so it's your call. Just let me know which you choose.
Someone you manage · Chat
Gives someone you manage real ownership of the decision and makes clear you have no hidden preference.
- 05
Whether you choose the replacement or the refund, I'll need your order number to process it. Could you send it over when you reply?
Customer · Email
Helps when the next step is identical for both options and you want things moving.
- 06
Hi Rhiannon, a phone call or a video chat both work for me. Happy to go with whichever is easier for you. Thanks!
Recruiter / HR · SMS
Shows flexibility and warmth while leaving the choice with the recruiter.
- 07
Whatever you decide about the venue, I still need the headcount by Thursday. Can you confirm that today?
Coworker · SMS
Suits moments when your own deadline stays fixed whatever the other person decides.
- 08
Whether or not the client replies today, I'm planning to send the draft by 5 so you have it.
Boss · Chat
Gives your boss a clear update that doesn't hinge on an outside reply and doesn't come across as dismissive.
Examples
Hi Dana, Thanks for sending both layout options. I'm happy with either, so please go with the one you think reads best for the team. Once you've chosen, I'll update the slides and share the final version on Thursday morning. Best regards, Tegan
Both slots work for me, so pick whichever suits you better and I'll block it in my calendar.
What to avoid
- Using “either way” as your whole reply can read as “I don't care”, so add what you think or need.
- A curt instruction after it, such as “either way, send it today”, skips their point, so acknowledge it first.
- If you do have a preference, say so and give a short reason instead of hiding behind it.
- Pairing it with a sigh, “whatever” or “fine” in a message adds a passive-aggressive tone.
Rewrite your message
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