How to say “are you still coming?” professionally
Why it can fall flat
“are you still coming?”
Someone who gets “Are you still coming?” may feel doubted or chased, and they may answer defensively. Usually you just want a clear yes or no so you can plan the room, food or schedule.
Say this instead
- 01
Hi Maureen, I'm confirming who is joining the 3 pm review so I can book the right room. Can you make it?
Coworker · Chat
Giving a practical reason, like booking the right room, makes the question about logistics instead of doubt.
- 02
Hi Callum, I'm confirming numbers for Thursday's team lunch. Will you be able to join us? A quick yes or no is all I need.
Boss · Email
With a senior person, asking for just a quick yes or no keeps the request light and shows exactly what you need.
- 03
Hi Ms. Owens, I'm looking forward to our call at 11 am tomorrow. Could you confirm that time still works for you?
Client · Email
A warm opener plus a request to confirm the time suits calls or meetings that were set up a few days earlier.
- 04
Hey Finley, I'm finalizing tomorrow's agenda. Can you confirm you'll be at the 10 am sync? If something has come up, just tell me.
Someone you manage · Chat
Inviting Finley to mention any conflict lets a team member be open without feeling checked up on.
- 05
Hi Esther, I'm confirming our interview tomorrow at 2 pm. Does that time still work on your side? Please let me know if anything has changed.
Recruiter / HR · SMS
Before an interview, a short polite check saves both sides from a wasted slot.
- 06
Hi Mr. Shah, a reminder of your appointment tomorrow at 4 pm. Please reply YES to confirm, or call us if your plans have changed.
Customer · SMS
Replying YES is one easy step for the customer, which is ideal for appointment reminders.
- 07
We're about to order lunch. Are you joining us, or should I leave you out of the count?
Coworker · SMS
The casual tone and the clear lunch deadline make it easy to answer without any pressure.
Examples
Hi Neha, I'm finalizing the attendee list for Friday's 2 pm project review. Could you confirm whether you can still join? If you can't, just let me know and I'll share the notes with you afterwards. Thanks, Rafael
Hi Ravi, I'm sending the meeting link for the 4 pm catch-up shortly. Can you confirm you'll be on it?
What to avoid
- Tacking on “or have you forgotten?” or something similar, because it reads as an accusation.
- Saying “You're still coming, right?” with a sigh, since that signals you already expect a no.
- Asking at the last minute without explaining why you need an answer.
- Sending several nudges in a row, when one clear message with a reply-by time is enough.